Comments on: I’m single again http://www.aussiespeedoguy.com/speedo/im-single-again/ Gay Blog - Speedo Blog - 23yo Bisexual Aussie - Bisexual Blog Sat, 10 Jan 2009 00:31:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Wouldn't you like to know? http://www.aussiespeedoguy.com/speedo/im-single-again/#comment-22254 Wouldn't you like to know? Sat, 25 Aug 2007 21:07:53 +0000 http://www.aussiespeedoguy.com/?p=625#comment-22254 Well this lasted 2 seconds... Well this lasted 2 seconds…

]]> By: Ken http://www.aussiespeedoguy.com/speedo/im-single-again/#comment-22245 Ken Sat, 25 Aug 2007 13:42:40 +0000 http://www.aussiespeedoguy.com/?p=625#comment-22245 Hey, Dave, that first comment was pretty harsh. I don't think it's fair for Shane to accuse you of "immaturity". I agree with him that you are not yet ready to settle down to one person. And it may be quite a while before you are ready, if ever. The reality is that some men, both gay and straight, are NEVER ready to commit to one individual only. If this is true for you, now or in the future, the worst thing you could do is try to lock yourself into that pattern. I'm sorry things didn't pan out with JK, but your honesty with him was very necessary. Now you have to let him go. Very hard to do when you had such high hopes for a while, but it's very important for you to move on. And if you do decide that it was a mistake to drop JK for some hot sex with Will, then probably the best thing you can do is move on from BOTH of them! Hey, Dave, that first comment was pretty harsh. I don’t think it’s fair for Shane to accuse you of “immaturity”. I agree with him that you are not yet ready to settle down to one person. And it may be quite a while before you are ready, if ever.

The reality is that some men, both gay and straight, are NEVER ready to commit to one individual only. If this is true for you, now or in the future, the worst thing you could do is try to lock yourself into that pattern.

I’m sorry things didn’t pan out with JK, but your honesty with him was very necessary. Now you have to let him go. Very hard to do when you had such high hopes for a while, but it’s very important for you to move on.

And if you do decide that it was a mistake to drop JK for some hot sex with Will, then probably the best thing you can do is move on from BOTH of them!

]]> By: Shane http://www.aussiespeedoguy.com/speedo/im-single-again/#comment-22244 Shane Sat, 25 Aug 2007 11:33:30 +0000 http://www.aussiespeedoguy.com/?p=625#comment-22244 Although I do appreciate your being honest with JK regarding your intent to "hook up" with Will, I am disappointed. It is behavior such as this that tends to decrease the credibility that same-sex couples (especially gay men) should be taken seriously in their efforts to establish a monogomous relationship. Not suprising, but then after you express your intent to keep playing the field, You considered inviting JK to dance with you and Will. Not to mention, having forethoughts of getting him drunk and getting laid in the future. Im sorry but that just screams immaturity. Not sure why you even want to say that you are NOT SINGLE, you dont have what it takes at this point in your life to BE IN a relationship. Its sad too because Im sure you are an intelligent, decent man that has a lot to offer someone. Maybe after you get yours with Will you will miss the companionship of JK and do some soulsearching, and reconsider your actions. I'm just glad you were honest with JK about your intent. At least he had a choice to NOT engage with you any longer, but move on to find his stability. I think he made the right decision because it sounds like you are not worthy at this point of a stable relationship. Although I do appreciate your being honest with JK regarding your intent to
“hook up” with Will, I am disappointed. It is behavior such as this that tends
to decrease the credibility that same-sex couples (especially gay men) should
be taken seriously in their efforts to establish a monogomous relationship.
Not suprising, but then after you express your intent to keep playing the field,
You considered inviting JK to dance with you and Will. Not to mention,
having forethoughts of getting him drunk and getting laid in the future. Im
sorry but that just screams immaturity. Not sure why you even want to say that
you are NOT SINGLE, you dont have what it takes at this point in your life to
BE IN a relationship. Its sad too because Im sure you are an intelligent,
decent man that has a lot to offer someone. Maybe after you get yours with
Will you will miss the companionship of JK and do some soulsearching, and
reconsider your actions. I’m just glad you were honest with JK about your
intent. At least he had a choice to NOT engage with you any longer, but move on
to find his stability. I think he made the right decision because it sounds
like you are not worthy at this point of a stable relationship.

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